No Means No! is a 26 page full colour children's picture book about an empowered little girl who has a very strong and clear voice in all issues, especially those relating to her body and personal boundaries. This book can be read to children from 3 to 9 years. It is a springboard for discussions regarding children's choices and their rights. The 'Note to the Reader' at the beginning of the book and the 'Discussion Questions' on the final pages, guide and enhance this essential discussion.
It is crucial that our children, from a very young age, are taught to have a clear, strong voice in regards to their rights — especially about their bodies. In this way, they will have the confidence to speak up when they are unhappy or feel uncomfortable in any situation. A strong, confident voice as a young child converts to a strong, confident pre-teen, teenager and adult. With the prevalence today of online and offline bullying and various forms of abuse, such as physical, emotional and sexual abuse; our young people need to learn (from a young age) to always speak up when their rights are not being respected.
The aim of this book is to empower young children and to give them a voice so they can grow up into empowered adults. When a child, teenager or adult says, ‘No!’ to any form of coercion, this should be immediately respected. A world where ‘No!’ does actually mean ‘No!’ can be a world with far less violence and increased respect for humankind. By educating our children to have true respect for one another, this world can be a much safer and more positive place.
Body Safety Education (aka sexual abuse prevention education) empowers girls and boys through knowledge, and teaches them they have the right to say, ‘No’ and to respect other’s personal boundaries. Both girls and boys need to learn to ask for consent and this can be taught from a very young age.
Some of the scenarios in this book are typical of approaches used by sexual abusers (sexual predators/molesters/pedophiles) when grooming children for sexual abuse. Their aim is to desensitize the child to having their personal space violated and desensitize them to touch.
“I loved this book. I am a Safeguarding Consultant and use it in my child protection training at work. This book promotes the voice of the child. A decent price and great pictures and storyline. A user-friendly book and not too scary but puts a clear message across for children. My 7 year old daughter enjoyed the book and it has given her more confidence in challenging people around her that make her feel uncomfortable. ”
— Annmarie Child: www.schoolsafeguarding.co.uk
“Well written and immediately engaging. My 4 year old B/G twins were immediately absorbed and we read it over and over several nights in a row. Great way to communicate this important message.”
— Karen Whitman
“This book is fantastic! It is simple and straightforward, even my 4 year old was announcing “NO MEANS NO!” It doesn’t scare the kids or go into unnecessary details which is nice. Very well done.”
— Amazon Purchaser
“This book is great for my 2 year old and 5 1/2 year old. Love this book. It has really opened up great conversations with my kids. ”
— Amazon Purchaser
“Great POSITIVE book on personal boundaries! This book does a great job of empowering kids with personal boundaries. Giving alternatives to physical touching with others and allowing kids to make their own choices when it comes to their bodies. I love the way the book takes a tough subject matter and uses it to instil confidence. Great book!”
— Emily Hakalaon
“We got this book for our 2 year old son and he loves it! He really enjoys the book and “no means no!” has become one of his favorite phrases. He understands to use the phrase when he doesn’t want someone touching him. Highly recommend the book for parents/caregivers wanting to teach bodily integrity to their children.”
— Amazon Purchaser